Who stole my happiness?
Who stole my happiness?
Let you count down to 3, how long haven’t you been feeling happy? 3,2,1……
Some people often ask in sadness: ‘why am I not happy even when I have a car and a property?’, ‘why do I still feel unhappy even though I know my parents love me so?’ Now, think about what we usually say when we first step into our house? ‘I feel dog-tired after work’, ‘I don’t want to do homework!’, ‘my boss asked me to wine and dine clients again!’. Have you ever realized most of the sentences began with ‘I’? Most of the time, we would let different kinds of daily dissatisfaction steal our happiness and make ourselves fall into a loop of complaining. Actually we are the ones who turned ourselves into a happiness thief.
5 reasons that make happiness hidden
Anything that happens in our daily life would remind our emotions of worries, complaints, anxiety and agony that makes happiness disappear. Let’s check out the five reasons that make happiness hidden:
1) Obsession in comparison
We have a tendency to compare ourselves with others. When we are comparing happiness with others instead of seeking for happiness, happiness will leave us.
2) Turn a blind eye on beautiful things
We always rush and ignore the good things around us. How can we be happy if we only focus on the troubles?
3) Standardized and regularity
Our lives only consist of work, eating and sleeping. How can it be filled with colors when we lack the passion in life and are covered by grayness?
4) Worrying endlessly
Worry about insufficient money and power, anxious about skyrocketing property prices and the future, like there are endless things that need our attention to worry about. When we are surrounded by worries, we would be impatient to little things and easily get angry. We may even be clenching our fists while sleeping. How is it possible for happiness to come in when worries have overwhelmed our emotions?
5) Not dare to be ourselves
We are oppressed by different expectations. Parents expect good children, friends expect good friends, partners expect perfect partners, and colleagues expect good teammates. Only you can't expect yourself, and always fight with yourself, it will be difficult to be truly happy.
How to balance Sadness and Joy?
When facing sadness, we don’t know what to do but try to force ourselves to change from ‘Sadness’ to ‘Joy’ and to seek happiness desperately. But actually both of them are our emotions and none of which is correct. We don’t need to get rid of Sadness. Instead, we can balance the said two emotions and find the lost happiness and regain fulfillment through four methods.
1) Call loved ones
Studies have shown that the mother's voice can reduce stress and release good hormones. so when you feel stressed, you might call your mother to talk as your family will always give you spiritual comfort.
2) Do vigorous physical activity
Spend 20-30 minutes running and exercising to let the brain release endorphins, which can make you relax and happy.
3) 10-second smile practice
Give yourself 10 seconds to practice smiling, either for laughing or smiling. When you adjust your facial muscles intentionally, your inner emotional state will also be unconsciously adjusted, thereby eliminating negative emotions.
4) Change of perspective
Unhappiness may be related to the perspective we look at the problem. If you try to look at it from another angle, you may discover its positive meaning and transform negative emotions into positive emotions.
I hope you can let happiness occupy your life again, and can feel fulfilled and blessed every day.
